Getting Married? What men/men's family should think of.

Note: This article should be deemed as purely informative. Most of the examples and cases quoted here are based on true incidents in my/immediate family and any coincidence with anyone living or dead is purely coincidence and I am not responsible/answerable to any court of law. This is truly based on Indian law and may not be considered for other countries for sections and penal codes.
I write this blog to help all those individuals especially working Men who are getting married to woman in India.

Just a sneak peak, it is noted that the 90% of the divorce cases are filed by individuals who are both earning! More alarmingly are the causes of divorce?! Which I will brief of on in upcoming articles.
Every year the number of cases are getting doubled if not divorce; partners are resorting to something I refer to as inhuman and illegitimate relationships behind their partners in comfort zone called marriage. I will also focus on what such actions will lead into and consequences to your own self/children in long term.

Considering our tradition and culture, especially if you are coming from an orthodox and middle class family with morals, ethics and healthy principles as your primary breath, you will be a primary target for money looting, by woman, in the institution of marriage.

It is also seen those in professions like CA, doctors also facing 498A etc., as woman prefer to target the high-earning men in private especially MNC jobs and prefer them as husbands for easy money.
Please be circumspective of the decisions you make in marrying an Indian woman.

I only am quoting few personal traits you can leverage to better know your partner.

• Make sure you meet the girl first in person, know where she is working, and meet her colleagues/friends, know her expectations from you/marriage/in laws etc. Know her parents back ground and her back ground. Get her medical record from a trusted family doctor this helps to know few things like her health (abortions, STD’s etc.). You have every right to ask and she also has every right to refuse. So make your choice wisely. This does not say much but will be helpful to get an insight into her lifestyle.
• If you are trying to marry a girl whose father/immediate family is in real estate, you need to be double cautious of the fact that they have good network with advocates, police and criminals.
• Always be double cautious when choosing a girl from family whose immediate family/family members are advocates or if there sisters of someone are undergoing divorce process.
• If you have a choice ensure the girl is not from same locality of yours (magistrate division). The reason being you have choice to register case against her in your own area and not hers which may be risky considering her relations at her home town.
• A girl who usually comes with a higher class than yours mostly has bigger dreams and sometimes due to parents forcefulness may accept for marriage so ensure you set the expectations very clearly.
• A girl who has all girls as siblings usually has less insight of how a boys behavior would be, compared to a girl who has brother as sibling. This does not mean a girl with brother as sibling can be blindly married! There are equal number of divorce cases whose brothers support their sisters just to cash easy money by taking percentages.

The most commonly used cases against men by working women to squeeze money are below.

• 498 A is the worst nightmare and a weapon if misused by woman. Saddening part is, it is considered a criminal case once filed against you, by a girl, even though you have not even dreamt of resorting into such actions “Welcome to reality”. 99% of divorce cases from 2009 are filed by woman under this section
• Others and equally important are  CrPC 125 (monthly maintenance), HMA 24 (interim maintenance),  IPC 406A (recovery of women’s righteous money), 324 (assault), IPC 506 (criminal intimidation)
• The latest trend is that wife may file IPC 377 on you (unnatural sex), IPC 376 (rape) or 354 (outraging modesty of a woman) on your father or your brother etc.

Things you need to ensure you follow/practice considering the changes in current trend especially if you are a Man/Woman getting into marriage are

• Dowry is a practice in India even though the form and name has changed a lot in recent past. Either it is in the form of a gift from girl’s father to her on day of marriage in the form of gold/diamonds/land/car/gold rings/mangal sootr etc. or a costly trip to countries for honeymoon.
•   Make sure everything even a penny spent in marriage procession is procured in the form of hard copy/soft copy of bills and save it forever. The bills related to gold, sarees, gifts, catering, function hall, even the money spent on priests or for that matter gas and electricity too should be saved for later purposes.
• A common trend among girls is to file IPC sections under dowry and quoting 20-30 lakhs of INR (May go beyond if you are from higher middle class and affluent families) in marriage processions. This could be avoided by submitting this bills to Honorable court.
• There was one case the court has just dismissed and fined woman for falsifying the facts and raised dowry, dv and 498 against her husband. The husband used the proofs of bills and a video footage that was taken as proof of what was given to each other in terms of gifts or cost of marriage. I am not saying you should not trust your partner, what I am saying is avoid conflicts in future by just following these small things during marriage.

Trust, humanity, morals are forgotten values now a days. If you are a man who believe these then this article is for you. Do not get into marriage or even relationship in haste, take your time. And follow simple things like above which may at least give you some relief instead of none.

My next article will be on differences in thought process between men and women in India and the outcomes of these in differences leading to divorce which could be avoided by knowing what each of the individual is getting into after marriage.

Thanks for reading, hope it is helpful to know what is going in the Indian Marriage systems currently.